The month of February is considered the love month for many love birds.
Down the aisle, in most stores around Valentine's Day, you will find chocolates, heart balloons, roses and teddy bears displayed all over the place in the spirit of love. But, what does that mean? If you don't get anything, you're not loved?
I found out a long time ago that a teddy bear with a heart-laced on it means absolutely nothing. Because love is a language that is spoken by what one does; it exceeds the words. How does the love, the person offering to you, feel? Does it build you up or tear you down. This 'love' could be robbing you blind. It could be slow and subtle stealing your life by literally 'wasting' your time in more ways than one.
People say I love you all the time, but their actions do not calculate to this conclusion. Love is real. It adds to you, not subtracting from you leaving you empty. Are you the one always balancing the books and making up the deficits? Being around this person or people should be rewarding. Love Gives. Love Receives. Love Gives.
It should not be a dreaded cloud of darkness. If there is, you better ask yourself in a hurry why do you feel this way. There's a reason, and you need to get to the root of it before it is too late. Don't ignore this; God wants you to deal with this thing. We dismiss too many things that could prove detrimental all because we would not look at the signs.
Love is not selfish and self-serving. Love gives. Love should be refreshing because love is life-giving--like God.
He Is Love.
This is not just in a romantic way but in the family dynamic, as well. The love thing with family can be just as misconstrued. Because people will try to tell you how to love them. If you do not love them the way they feel you ought to by doing their every-request, then there's a problem. That's not how it should be. Why do they get to say 'no' and do what they want to do while you remain in the 'yes' club? Watch the dynamic change when your lips form the word-no. Just watch.
Something is wrong with this.
God has opened my eyes in this season. I have loved my family hard but was it the right way? No, it has not always been. Why? Because my help was self-serving. I didn't want to see people go through. I tried to prop them up to stand, but they didn't want to. So what in the heck was I doing? Getting tired, that's what. Let people be and let them go. Throw your hands in the air, like-you-just-don't-care. Gone ahead. Because if they don't know you love them by now, they never will. God showed me the imbalance and the harm of loving my way even with good intentions. However, I got in God's way.
I thought my 'help' would push them forward, but instead, I caused setbacks while enabling people to remain the same and unwilling to change. Is this love? I'm not talking about tough love, but following God's way of loving people. So that they truly get the help, at the right time and in the right way. Yes, they might have to hit the skids, but they will be better for it. My job is to pray and love them God's way.
Take a look at your life. Are you helping or hurting your love ones? Ask God to help you love the people He created the right way.